Marriage is not the problem. We are!

Marriage is not the problem. We are!
See the ADEOYE'S nice picture and togetherness from the beginning!
Is Marriage na scam ni? People may be asking.
Some people may be saying Marriage na this , marriage na that...cho cho Cho....
Let us tell ourselves the truth. Marriage is not any problem. We the people inside it is the problem .
Marriage is an institution ordained by God, but we the people is the issue. We allow complications.
See a good family at the beginning, and see how everything later got scattered.
Marriage is not a criteria for making heaven.Only if we allow ourselves to hinder ourselves from making heaven.
So nobody can ever blame MARRIAGE,we should rather blame ourselves for either wrong choice or wrong attitude.
From what I gathered,Mr Rotimi ADEOYE her husband was once deported from the foreign country because of the same conflict.
What I am not clear about is why he wasn't desperate enough about taking responsibility for his own children at all cost.
Forget that the late wife hindered communication. A man must be desperate at having connection and communication with his children unless totally prohibited by court.
Why would he become so relaxed somewhere without bothering about the children until burial day of his former wife?
I heard he tried all means to reconcile but all to no avail. This is not totally true,he should have moved closer to the pastors who invited her wife for ministration and allow them intervain on the matter. At least for the sake of children.
If you are a father here, and you give excuses for not caring for your children, you're not wise at all.
If you're a father here and you can't resolve differences between you and your family or ex-family.you're not wise please.
You may not be together again but you can still maintain healthy relationships.
Yes, it's easier said than done, but I say to you it's easier done if we seek God's help than using our own limited brain.
How can you say someone didn't allow you and you too go and rest? Why not think about the future and quickly take legal steps for peaceful access to your children?
If you are my friend here, and you can't learn how to make peace,oh I will stop being your friend please. As you see me so,I dey stubborn too,but I go be like jelly fish when I realized say na peace I need. I will change! You too must decide to change for the better!
Another thing is ,there can be a spiritual attack or evil arrow against any family without them knowing. Our ability to recognize (asasi) manipulation from the kingdom of darkness is key to nipping issues from the start.
I have seen witchcraft manipulation from kingdom of darkness against innocent families. And they got scattered and unsettled because of this ignorance. Some in-laws can be so demonically evil and husband and wife won't know it.
Whatever can make a gospel singer eloped when she wasn't officially divorced is questionable.
Whatever can make a gospel singer have records of being rude at responding to warnings and corrections from others is a sign something was spiritually wrong.
Whatever can make a gospel singer not reconciling her children with their father calls for concern.
WE CAN'T BLAME ANYONE,we can only draw lessons out of whatever happened. So that rest of us must learn and not make same mistakes
Whatever happened I will want to advise every man in such condition never to agree with not communicating with their children and taking responsibility for their upbringing. Unless such a man is TOTALLY IRRESPONSIBLE.
Man think about your future! Become responsible!!
Men should avoid pushing women to the wall please.
Women should please pray for erring men. God still answer prayers.
Eyin iya wa,ejowo e fowo wonu. You see how I am lashing out on them! They will change for the better in Jesus name. Amen.
Please, don't misbehave because your spouse is misbehaving. Two wrongs can't make a right.
I love you all.
Your brother
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