You like the picture?

You like the picture?
Even me I like it.
And there is a story I will like to tell you about.
It's a story about how one day I was simply joking with her by just tapping her and her knock landed hard on the centre of my head.
It pained me and I couldn't contain it,so I tried to give it back without success.
I had to park the car because I was driving when it happened. Yet I wasn't successful at giving it back.
I became a rascal man that day and you won't imagine that situation actually revealed I wasn't a gentleman at all.
What started as a play turned me to a spray
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Come and see drama that day. Nobody could calm me ,not even the Holy Spirit. I lost the Holy Spirit that day and regained Him thereafter.
That was many many years ago anyways.
Hear me well, and I want people to understand something.
Marriage is actually not what you see in pictures.
Marriage is not what people see being displayed outside.
Marriage is two people working on themselves together and allowing both comfort and conflict to mold them to become better.
If you only grow in comfort all the time,you're not growing.
That's why I will never advise couples not to have disagreement, they should be free to express their grievances and never hide nonsense. Else pretending to manage nonsense can lead to more destruction that may become permanent.
I personally don't believe preachers who says its all comfort all throughout their marriage journey. They are liars or just wanted to show people they are perfect.
I can authoritatively tell people now that I have learned through experience how to manage my wife better and endure the hormonal/menstrual things that used to make women behave somehow. Women go through a lot inside but a lot of men don't know.
A woman may be reacting very negatively to you,and you won't know she doesn't really mean it. If you don't give her the time to express herself,you may never enjoy her. Allow her to get angry, or talk well around you. Be calm and crack jokes to make her laugh out her stress.
Do not try to prove yourself right always, but be very strong as a man. A strong man is what a woman needs so they can feel protected,not just a soft soul.
Yes,you may once be rascal like mine,but please don't allow that rascality continue. Keep it for fighting evil strangers. Keep it for spirituality and not for physical abuse. Keep it for the day of battle and not for proofing your rights.
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Much more, in the kingdom of darkness, they do shoot arrows of anger into marriages and couples will never suspect.
Be very sensitive to know when not to dance to the tune of arrows of disagreement, anger and misbehaviour.
Do not let anyone decieve you,no marriage is perfect physically. But we have the peace of God when we manage it well. The good management is what some calls perfect.
You can now understand why marriages are facing problems?
Bad management.
Today, please reconcile with your partner at all cost,and never try to keep offences for long time.
May God keep our home. Amen
Your brother
Latunde Akin